Limits Exist Only In The Mind

I saw this sign after I gave my first Get Paid: Negotiation Workshop at Arnold Worldwide. I knew I had to snap a picture of it, because it was a reminder that came at the perfect time.

As I’ve been working my way through working more meditation into my life (my #40DaysPresent has officially ended, and I’m working on summing up EVERYTHING), I started reading “The Universe Has Your Back” by Gabrielle Bernstein. One of the things she talks about, is to learn to open up to everything that the Universe/God has to offer, and to ASK for reminders.

So, as I nervously made my way to Arnold Worldwide and started setting up, I asked for a sign. A sign that I was on the right path. A sign that I was supposed to be doing this.

The class went better than I could have ever expected – with insightful questions, open conversation and even some laughs. As the two hours wound down, I started to begin that was my sign, that people were writing down what I was saying and enjoying themselves.

As I was packing up, I noticed a mural that said “It’s not what you have, it’s what you make”, and went out to snap a picture. As I was taking the photo, one of the girls tapped me and said “I think you would also like this one” – and lo and behold there it was.

“Limits exist only in the mind.”

I let it sink in. If limits exist only in my mind, what have I limited MYSELF from doing, just by THINKING that I couldn’t do it?

What amazing things are waiting for you to realize that you CAN do it?

So, today, I’m sharing the photo and this story with you. Because, in the end, you have to trust yourself. You have to push yourself. No one else gets to make you YOU except for you.

This weekend, I’m stepping out of my comfort zone to be a part of my first Reiki circle.  Next week, I’ll give you a recap of it and WHY I laughed and smiled so hard the first time someone suggested I give it a try.

Until then, live big, love hard and get sweaty.

P.S. Mark your calendar – 3/27 is the next Get Paid: Negotiation Workshop… sign up now!


Half Way Though #40DaysPresent – What I’ve Learned So Far

So, I’m officially on day 22 of #40DaysPresent.

I’ll be honest, I’m actually surprised I’ve done this for 22 days straight. When I first spoke with Lizzie Muse about a 40 Day meditation – she told me right off the bat that if you missed a day, the clock reset, and it was back to day 1.

Unlearning habits is a hard thing to do. But do you know what’s also hard? Creating NEW habits.

At first it felt weird. I played the mantra on my phone, got into my seated position and closed my eyes. The first time I did it, I felt silly.


I was judging myself.

I was thinking “What am I getting myself into? Why did you think this was a good idea. How many breaths was that? It’s 8 short inhales, to one big exhale… what count am I on?”

But I stuck through it. And slowly, I started to melt into the 10 minutes of meditation.

The more I opened myself up to this new experience, the more I took out of it.

About a week ago, I bought a card deck called “The Universe Has Your Back.” I have added it to my mediation – I’ll lay out all the cards in a row and do my 10 minutes. At the end, I pick a card and use what it says as my focus for the day.

It’s been incredible how much awareness this brings to me every single day.  Why? When I carve out time for myself, I’m able to find MORE time to work on myself. People have messaged me saying “I’d love to mediate, but I don’t have time”.

We DO have time.

I started finding pockets of time when I put my phone down. When I stopped mindlessly scrolling through Instagram all the time, I found pockets of 5 – 10 minutes, where I was able to write a note, clean a corner, or just read a book.

The time was there all along.

I’ve learned the value of my time in these last 22 days – and I am so grateful.

I cannot wait to see what I learn in the next 18 days – and how I can continue this journey to fully enjoying the present every single day this year.


“Stress Doesn’t Have a Face”- 5 Takeaways from #PressPause

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“Stress doesn’t have a face.”

Those five words smacked me upside the head in the packed lobby of The Handle Bar in Harvard Square.

I, along with 30 other women, had taken the time out of our weekend to #PressPause with the Wellness Collective & The Handle Bar – for a 35 minute spin class with Sarah Maguire and a discussion about self-care practices and practical tips to boost your mental health. The Wellness Collective Co-Founders, Ana Alarcón and Kerri Axelrod, moderated the conversation, as The Handle Bar owner and founder of Handle with Care, Jessica Fracalossi, and holistic mental health counselor, Rachel Duda, spoke with us about mental health and the importance of checking in with yourself.

The holiday season is such a busy time. The act of GIVING is so ingrained in the season, that often times we forget that we can’t just continuously give – gifts, time, or energy. At some point, we run dry and we need to take the time for ourselves to RECEIVE the love and energy that we are giving.

So, here are my five takeaways from #PressPause. This is not an extensive list, and if you ever feel like you are TOO overwhelmed, remember to ask for help – from family, friends or a medical professional. No one can help unless you ask.

“Stress Doesn’t Have a Face”

We’re starting right here.

Everyone experiences stress.

Stress doesn’t care if you are a hot shot, or a nobody. Stress could care less if you have a date, or are exhausted.

Understanding that everyone gets stressed is the first part. Realizing that you can help relieve that stress is the next hurdle.

So, how do you combat stress? Well, the answer is different for everyone. For me, my biggest stress reliever is a good workout. Being able to take out my stress by lifting heavy, rowing hard, going to a yoga class or spinning, has been a MIND saver. Seriously – I don’t think I could have gotten through this year without my workouts. And yes, I have been known to shed a therapeutic tear or two during some yoga classes and spin classes.

Other things I’ve done to help battle the stress have been journaling (obvi I like to write) and coloring (those adult coloring books are no joke). The key here is to find something you enjoy and that helps you manage YOUR stress.

Admit to yourself when enough is enough

This is probably the most difficult thing that was spoken about on Sunday. You can have all the tools at your disposal. You can have the most supportive tribe.

But if you can’t admit that you need help/a break – then nothing will change.

It’s so ingrained into us that “YOU CAN HAVE IT ALL – YOU JUST HAVE TO WORK HARD FOR IT”. But… just like I mentioned at the top, you can have it all, but eventually you’re going to either burn out or run into a wall.

Practice standing firm on your limits. Practice admitting to yourself that you need a moment to breath. Practice admitting to yourself when enough is enough. And most importantly – practice admitting that you might need a helping hand.

Just. Say. No

This is something I need to get better at. I’m guilty of saying “YES” to almost every opportunity that comes by.

Want to speak at this event? OF COURSE.

Can you get this done by tomorrow? IF YOU NEED IT, YOU GOT IT.

Can you travel to XYZ for a meeting? I’ll BE THERE.

Anyone else feel me?

The holiday season, “Yes” overload can easily happen. Feeling like you SHOULD go to an event/party can make us feel exhausted. So, one of the things that was talked about was just practicing saying “No” to things that don’t make you go “HECK YES.”

If something doesn’t excite every fiber of your being, and will cause you more stress, then try saying no. Take the time for yourself, and energize yourself for the exciting opportunities that may arise.


Be mindful of where you spend your time

Mindfulness is a buzzword that you might see popping up. When our minds are going a mile a minute, it can be hard to really focus on how you are spending your time, and if you are being TRULY present.

I have a bajillion tabs open on my computer virtually all the time. I have NO clue on how many times I will mindlessly open up Instagram and just scroll. Literally, big thumb swoop, scroll – passing photos, captions, friends, strangers. Just mindlessly passing the 60 seconds away, before I click out and head to another app and do the same thing.

Sounds exhausting right? Turns out, it is.

So, this holiday season, I’m going to try to be a little bit more mindful every time I do something. The panel spoke about doing every action with a purpose and a goal – “what is it that you are going to get out of this”. So, whether it’s opening Instagram to see how many likes a post got, or to see what a friend is up to, my social media habit will get a slight revamp this holiday season. I’ll report back on how it goes.

Which leads me into…

Unfollow Social Media Account That Cause You Stress

We live in a tricky time – social media is a BIG part of what I do. From curating posts, working with influencers and brand, to sharing part of our daily lives, social media is part of our every day lives.

However, there is a dark side to social media that people don’t always talk about.

The comparison. The competition. The stress of “keeping up”.

So, all the panelists said the same simple thing: “Unfollow”

Unfollow the accounts that make you feel lesser than you. Unfollow the accounts that stress you the eff out. Unfollow those accounts that cause drama.

You’re in control of your feed, and you don’t need to CHOOSE to have that kinda stress pop up right now.

I started the unfollow game. It’s been pretty liberating to say the least.


Do you have any tips on how to practice #PressingPause? Leave a comment below and let’s share the mental wellness love together <3